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ms protocol Focusing the intent of your relationship

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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This book is a map to help others design their own personal protocols. It is a book that provides countless tips and

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communications A book of practical communication insights

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Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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Many of our adult behaviors are largely invisible to us because they’re accepted and supported by our culture. It doesn’t occur

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bdsmmastery basics your guide to play, parties, and scene protocols

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M. Jen Fairfield

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This is not a book that explains what BDSM is, this is a book that explains what BDSM is all

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bdsm mastery relationships a guide for creating mindful relationships for Dominants and submissives

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Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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This is a book about relationships. Adventuresome relationships. Relationships that are not exactly like vanilla relationships. BDSM relationships

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ms mastery updated Updated handbook of concepts, approaches and practices

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Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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As you learn more about M/s structures, you will learn that unlike the popularized version in which the slave’s primary reason-for-being

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master slave mastery advanced Refining the fire—ideas that matter

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Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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In my view, the Master/slave dynamic provides an almost unique opportunity for a like-minded couple to design a magical life for themselves… so

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It is astonishing how short a time it takes for very wonderful things to happen.

Personal Exploration and Discovery
Bob's Personal Journey

So…

I am a DM and dutifully volunteering for play parties given both by SAADE and GWNN.  SAADE only has about 30 members; GWNN has probably 300 active members.  If you wanted to go to a play party, it would be a GWNN event.

Renee and I are at a GWNN play party and I was on DM duty.  It was mostly the usual stuff: spankings, floggings, some rope-work here and there, and—usually—Ambrosio in some outrageously geeky outfit performing some elaborate form of torture on some enthusiastically willing young thing and screams of agony as a FemDomme pulls clothes pins off some poor guy’s testes.  Actually, that FemDomme is Trainer Caroline and the poor guy’s testes belongs to clayswitch.

Anyway, at the particular moment in question, the main dungeon floor was pretty quiet, because most of us were watching some giant of a man (Davo) using an eight or ten-foot bullwhip on a teeny little girl (Beverly) who was screaming each time the whip struck her.

“Well,” I thought, as a DM on duty,“I need to get a closer view.”

So I left Renee and walked aaalllll the way ‘round the perimeter of the play space in order to get a closer look at the whipee and what was going on.  

As I passed the last post before getting to the stage, a woman who was leaning against that post said: “If you interrupt Beverly’s scene, she’ll kill you.”

I stopped, of course. I turned and realized it was the lady I saw a Bamm’s party in December. I did not know her name right at that moment, but I knew that she was a club member.

We started talking.

And kept talking.

And kept talking.

We spoke for something like 20 minutes.

At the end of this time (when I should have been DMing, by the way), I separated from Brenna and ran back to Renee.  Totally interrupting the in-depth discussion she was having with some Dom, I blurted out: “Did you see that! I actually spoke to that woman for 20 minutes.”

“Yes,” she said. “I’ve been watching.”

“She is looking for a flogging buddy and I’ve wanted someone to practice on. I’ve invited her for dinner on Friday, is that okay?”

Renee looked at me, then she looked at the man with whom she had been speaking, then she looked back at me as though I were daft.

“Well, of course, since you’ve already invited her.”

(NOTE: Brenna collared me six months later.)

Personal Exploration and Discovery
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bdsm mastery relationshipsa guide for creating mindful relationships for Dominants and submissives

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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This is a book about relationships. Adventuresome relationships. Relationships that are not exactly like vanilla relationships. BDSM relationships differ in two specific ways from your typical vanilla relationship: first, they usually involve a power-imbalanced structure (one person is clearly in charge and the other person is clearly following); second, the kind of sex that adventuresome folks practice is, well, not vanilla.



I wrote this book to help you better to understand the power dynamics that get involved with what are called power-imbalanced relationships (usually referred to as Dominant/submissive or D/s relationships).

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