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ms protocol Focusing the intent of your relationship

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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This book is a map to help others design their own personal protocols. It is a book that provides countless tips and

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communications A book of practical communication insights

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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Many of our adult behaviors are largely invisible to us because they’re accepted and supported by our culture. It doesn’t occur

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bdsmmastery basics your guide to play, parties, and scene protocols

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Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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This is not a book that explains what BDSM is, this is a book that explains what BDSM is all

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bdsm mastery relationships a guide for creating mindful relationships for Dominants and submissives

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Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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This is a book about relationships. Adventuresome relationships. Relationships that are not exactly like vanilla relationships. BDSM relationships

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ms mastery updated Updated handbook of concepts, approaches and practices

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Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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As you learn more about M/s structures, you will learn that unlike the popularized version in which the slave’s primary reason-for-being

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master slave mastery advanced Refining the fire—ideas that matter

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Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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In my view, the Master/slave dynamic provides an almost unique opportunity for a like-minded couple to design a magical life for themselves… so

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The best way to show that a stick is crooked is not to argue about it, or to spend your time denouncing it, but to lay a straight stick alongside it. 

Personal Exploration and Discovery
Bob's Personal Journey

photo 11 the family

Renee (my second wife, far right) had been able to accept Karen as Mistress. Master/slave was a foreign land so far as our marriage was concerned, and I was fascinated with it from the start.  What Mistress offered was not threatening to our own relationship.

That was not the case once Mindi entered the picture.  From the first night that Mindi spent at our house after the fire play class, she knew.  

Renee was only marginally interested in BDSM; she was not at all interested in M/s. This all came to a head and she moved out in the summer of 2005. Actually, she moved about six blocks away.


NOTE: I sold all the shop equipment and have rather lost touch with the lathe, lathe tools, and a very special collection of exotic hardwood blocks. I suppose that in 2016 those blocks of wood are unattainable in the US.  One was lingum vitae and one was coco bolla.  The coco bolla was probably 8” square x 30”.  I suppose it weighed 30+ pounds. The lingum wasn’t much smaller; it was a jade-color. They were always too valuable to cut up to turn. I wasn’t quite that good on the lathe.  I “loaned” that stuff to someone who lives near Houston who now doesn’t return my emails.  I could force the issue, but haven’t.

In 2006, Brenna, Mindi, and I moved in together in an apartment in Austin.

The three of us moved to Panama in January, 2009.

Mistress had to return early because of her son’s health.

Mindi and I returned the following December.

Renee still lives in the same space, blocks from our home together. I remain in close touch with her.

Personal Exploration and Discovery
Bob's Personal Journey
Travel Notes
Photography
My Erotic and Fetish Photography
Nature Photography
Here I am with my 100-400mm zoom lens connected to a 2x tele-extender with the sun-shield in place. You can see that the lens is attached to the tripo...
Presentation Experiences
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What a fun event! When I arrived in Edmonton, it was 25-degrees below zero. Very low humidity, so any wind gives a stinging sensation. To my total sur...
bdsm mastery relationshipsa guide for creating mindful relationships for Dominants and submissives

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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This is a book about relationships. Adventuresome relationships. Relationships that are not exactly like vanilla relationships. BDSM relationships differ in two specific ways from your typical vanilla relationship: first, they usually involve a power-imbalanced structure (one person is clearly in charge and the other person is clearly following); second, the kind of sex that adventuresome folks practice is, well, not vanilla.



I wrote this book to help you better to understand the power dynamics that get involved with what are called power-imbalanced relationships (usually referred to as Dominant/submissive or D/s relationships).

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