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Phoenix APEX Intensive

Master Curtis and slave wen had set up the weekend for an intensive. I spent the week before this intensive visiting my Father while Jen stayed home working. We timed our arrival at the airport in Phoenix to within minutes of each other on Friday and returned home together this past Tuesday, as they had a club that met on Monday nights that wanted us to stay and present.

We did a string of classes from Friday to Tuesday for APEX, the Arizona Power Exchange. Archer and Tess run this, and we were staying at their house. I’ve known Archer for years, and like one another quite a bit. I’d not met Tess before. She’s a real estate agent, I believe.

Here was our schedule:

Friday Night

  • 7-9:30pm: Erotic Fire Play for (His) Fun and (Her) Pleasure

Saturday

  • 10–12: Understanding How Power Exchange Relationships can get into Trouble

  • 2–5: An Interactive Afternoon Exploring Foreplay as a Scene & Playing Hard with a Lady

  • 8-midnight: play party

Sunday

  • 11-1:00 Why are we Clashing Like This? Exploring Common Communication Upsets

  • 2–4 Avoiding Marshes and Bogs in Relationships – an Exploration

  • 7:30-9: Distinctions between “Leather” and “Not-Leather” for the MAsT meeting

Monday Evening

  • 7:15-9:30p: Using Protocols to Make your World Special

This was the best intensive we’ve ever put on. Partly, this is because I know a lot of people in the Phoenix crowd, and part is that Archer and Tess and Master Curtis and slave wen are particularly good at organizing the club members for events such as these.

I met Master Amy and slave mikey on Sunday at the MAsT meeting. This was one of the “stand-out” events of the weekend. He and I had a spark of soul-level recognition. I don’t know if anything will ever come of it, but to see him kneeling at Master Amy’s feet spoke volumes about who he is, who she is, and what their relationship must be. Really beautiful.

Upon speaking briefly with him after the class, I now realize that he is a dominant heterosexual slave. He is the first dominant slave I’ve ever met.

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Flames of Passion: Handbook of Erotic Fire Play

photo 23 fireplay cover

David Walker and I prepared so many safety handouts for our fire play classes that I asked him whether he might like to put it out as a book. “After all,” I said, “we certainly have the photography set-up and the models.” “Sure” he replied.

We scheduled a couple of shoots; one for cupping, one for wanding, one for wax play, and one for flash cotton. We did the cupping on Renee and the flash cotton on Misty. The sequence with Misty still makes me smile, as we laid out the pattern in such a way that she could feel the flame start up and then watch it approach her face. Her expressions are priceless and we put them in the book. Usually, for newbies, we lay out a simple “Y” strand and light it in the middle. That way, it is totally over before the bottom knows it was lit.

We got Jay Wiseman involved with the book when it came to fire extinguishers. There is a lot of controversy over whether to use a CO2 extinguisher or an ABC powder type. On the one hand, you can throw a person into shock with the CO2 extinguisher, but you don’t risk acid in their eyes. With the ABC extinguisher, you have to be very careful about spraying faces. David and I got around this by saying that there had to be a backup person available when you’re doing fire, and that the person conducting the scene is responsible for the bottom’s safety and the person with the fire extinguisher is responsible for property once the bottom has been removed from the area.

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Sex, SM Play, and a Poly Household

Note: 2004-5 was a period of frequent sex and sm play. On the sexual side, we were very involved with the swing community and were regulars at The Jungle, Austin’s up-scale swing club. Jac (the owner) and I became very close friends. To calibrate what I mean by sexually active, my log shows that I had sex with 18 different women in 2004 and with 15 different women in 2005. Some of these were one-offs at The Jungle (Austin's kooky on-site swingers club), but many became multiple or long-term play partners.

Playing with many women gave me a lot of practice with my sex techniques. In particular, I’d become reasonably good at making girls squirt and at fisting. At one of The Jungle parties, a woman’s husband approached me about fisting his wife. This was my first time trying to fist a woman I didn’t know well. I was pretty anxious, but all went tremendously well and all three of us had lots of fun. That we didn’t have any lube has made that scene one of my most vivid recollections: I just kept licking my hand/wrist and…

Most of the sex play at The Jungle was straight sex, but there were one or two ladies with whom I did fire or knife play. Jac would invite me to do a fire play demo a few times a year and that usually resulted in some ladies asking for that experience later in the evening. There was an “exhibition platform” in the back house and that’s where I did the fire play.

I had a woman up on the exhibition platform and set off the flash cotton. Huge flash, of course; the crowd made appropriate gasps. Then, from the orgy room (three king-sized mattresses in a row) a man walked in, looked around, and said, “What’s up?”

We explained we had just set off some flash cotton (nitro cellulous). He said, “Oh. Okay. I’m the fire marshal for the University of Texas and just wondered what the flash was.”

LOL

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Anyway, I was mentioning that I learned vanilla sex techniques from watching the guys and playing at The Jungle. I leaned to combine my play skills with sex techniques with those who become long-term partners; it was also a chance to build my kink skills.

On the “kink skills” topic, we were also attending play parties where I often was doing fire play demos there, too.

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