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ms protocol Focusing the intent of your relationship

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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This book is a map to help others design their own personal protocols. It is a book that provides countless tips and

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communications A book of practical communication insights

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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Many of our adult behaviors are largely invisible to us because they’re accepted and supported by our culture. It doesn’t occur

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bdsmmastery basics your guide to play, parties, and scene protocols

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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This is not a book that explains what BDSM is, this is a book that explains what BDSM is all

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bdsm mastery relationships a guide for creating mindful relationships for Dominants and submissives

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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This is a book about relationships. Adventuresome relationships. Relationships that are not exactly like vanilla relationships. BDSM relationships

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ms mastery updated Updated handbook of concepts, approaches and practices

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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As you learn more about M/s structures, you will learn that unlike the popularized version in which the slave’s primary reason-for-being

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master slave mastery advanced Refining the fire—ideas that matter

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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In my view, the Master/slave dynamic provides an almost unique opportunity for a like-minded couple to design a magical life for themselves… so

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I’ve spent my life trying to undo habits—especially habits of thinking. They narrow your interaction with the world. They’re the phrases that come easily to your mind, like: ‘I know what I think,’ or ‘I know what I like,’ or ‘I know what’s going to happen today.’ If you just replace ‘know’ with ‘don’t know,’ then you start to move into the unknown. And that’s where the interesting stuff happens.”

Humans of New York
Personal Exploration and Discovery
Bob's Personal Journey
Travel Notes
Photography
My Erotic and Fetish Photography
Nature Photography
Here I am with my 100-400mm zoom lens connected to a 2x tele-extender with the sun-shield in place. You can see that the lens is attached to the tripo...
Personal Exploration and Discovery
Travel Notes
Presentation Experiences
One-off Presentation (eg: club)
We are just back from New Orleans! We’d been invited in for the weekend to present for NOBLE (New Orleans Bondage & Leather Enthusiasts). Master W...
Personal Exploration and Discovery
Bob's Personal Journey

 

Renee (my second wife) and I were just trying to take this all in and were standing around in the living room. From the back bedroom, we heard the crack of Bamm’s whip accompanied by a woman’s scream. Suddenly, the woman came running out of the room and through the living room clutching her clothing to her chest and sort-of speaking to herself, all wide-eyed…

“This is the first time I’ve been naked around other people.”

“I actually called ‘red,’ I actually could do it.”

The woman—Brenna, I would eventually learn—had been assigned by the Dom training her to learn to call “red.”  To make sure it happened quickly, efficiently, and safely, the Dom had given her over to Bamm for a single-tail whip scene.  True to his word to make her call “red,” he had her hold on to the St Andrews cross and popped her one time.

It only took one shot.

He was very, very good.

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