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ms protocol Focusing the intent of your relationship

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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This book is a map to help others design their own personal protocols. It is a book that provides countless tips and

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communications A book of practical communication insights

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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Many of our adult behaviors are largely invisible to us because they’re accepted and supported by our culture. It doesn’t occur

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bdsmmastery basics your guide to play, parties, and scene protocols

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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This is not a book that explains what BDSM is, this is a book that explains what BDSM is all

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bdsm mastery relationships a guide for creating mindful relationships for Dominants and submissives

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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This is a book about relationships. Adventuresome relationships. Relationships that are not exactly like vanilla relationships. BDSM relationships

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ms mastery updated Updated handbook of concepts, approaches and practices

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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As you learn more about M/s structures, you will learn that unlike the popularized version in which the slave’s primary reason-for-being

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master slave mastery advanced Refining the fire—ideas that matter

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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In my view, the Master/slave dynamic provides an almost unique opportunity for a like-minded couple to design a magical life for themselves… so

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The best way to show that a stick is crooked is not to argue about it, or to spend your time denouncing it, but to lay a straight stick alongside it. 

Personal Exploration and Discovery
Bob's Personal Journey
Thoughtful Stuff

photo 8 books

NOTE: SAADE club meetings included a 60-90 minute demo or presentation. These were amazing events that discuss all sorts of topics that I’d never thought about. Erotic shaving? Basic rope bondage? Wrapping someone up in Saran Wrap? Spanking someone for erotic purposes?

At 58 years old, all this appeared to be occurring on a parallel universe.  I’d had zero exposure to anything but very vanilla sex prior to a year ago. I hadn’t been sexually curious to this point and I was brought up largely without kids my own age living in our neighborhood so I’d had no exposure to sexual options.


Since I’ve been trained to be an academic researcher, I decided that the obvious thing to do would be to read books and go to weekend BDSM conferences.  

I read lots of books. But, there simply aren’t very many books in print. We have “SM-101” and “Screw the Roses” and “The Loving Dominant,” but not a whole lot beyond that.  I continued to find books as they came out: generally, I read them immediately.

Austin is well located for weekend BDSM conferences.  My “main club,” NLA-Austin, puts on its own weekend educational event and GWNN has its annual Bash. Up in Dallas, you have both Southplains Leather Fest and Beyond Vanilla.  Renee and I are/have been going to all four of them: we were sucking up knowledge at a very good rate.

The first year we attended Southplains, we took 100% “skills track” classes.  There were a bunch of classes in something called the “M/s track,” but those seemed to be for the gay guys who were dressed a little differently from the rest of us.

By the second year that we went up for Southplains, we at least knew that Master/salve existed and started taking those classes.

By the third year at Southplains, we only took the M/s classes.

I’d found my fit. The rest is history.

Personal Exploration and Discovery
Travel Notes
Photography
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This was another blog-worthy trip. We’ve just returned from a very long and circuitous trip that had us going from Austin to Bosque del Apache in New ...
Personal Exploration and Discovery
Relating to Books

Mistress, slave mindi and I were at Southplains Leather Fest (Dallas).  We were all at Inquisition Dallas, the most established of Dallas’ dungeons and owned by some of the local Leatherfolk.  Mindi was in standing present behind my right shoulder as I was watching Midori do some suspension bondage. If I rotated about 30-degrees right, Tristan Tiaormino was dong anal play using a dildo/tuning fork she had designed (later called the “Fork You”). Mistress was in the next room watching a scene.

A gay gentleman came up to me and struck up a conversation. He was a writer, he said; his name was Tim Brough. Would I like to see his books? he asked.  “Sure,” I replied. “Okay,” he said, “they’re on display in the lobby. My publisher has a book display there. Let’s say we meet at 9:30 before classes start?”  “Sure.” I replied.

photo 13 timmy

NOTE: Timmy is very important in my life. Some years later, at Cleveland Leather Awareness Weekend (CLAW) he named me “Dr. Bob.”  I was horrified, as I’d tried to avoid being called “Doctor” anything all my life—I’d not taught at the college level. Anyway, this was my first introduction to Tim Brough and we’ve remained friends to this day.

The next morning we went down to breakfast and, before the 9:30 classes started, went to see the book display.  Timmy was there with his publisher and he showed me his books: “Sergeant Vengle’s Revenge,” “White Gloves, Black Magic.”  These are what are referred to as “gay handbooks.”  

More interesting, though, were the book covers. The publisher must have had 30 books spread out over three tables. He was a gentlemanly sort of guy; very handsome. He spoke with an extremely cultured, deep and resonant voice. He inspired confidence.  I looked over the books and asked:  “Do you ever need a photographer for your covers?”

He looked at me for a moment, picked up a book, and asked: “Can you do that?”

“With one hand tied behind my back,” I replied.

“Really?” he asked (Herbert, the owner of Nazca Plains Corp., the publishing company, has a particular way of pronouncing “really” so it carries a lot of unstated sentiment. When he says the word, it lingers on past a second or two.  It’s closer to re’_uhl-lee.)

I contacted him, as he lives in Austin, and we set up a date for a first shoot in my studio. He brought his own boy and the model. Herbert always had twinks as models: really gorgeous young gay guys.  The cover was a great success.  

photo 12 firsthand coverJust for the record, here is one of my covers. This was shot for one of Tim’s books and the model is David Henry. I first met David at Master’s Retreat. He has the deepest voice of anyone I’ve ever met


NOTE: Herbert had promised to pay me $500 for each book cover I shot.  Over the next two years I shot about 20 covers for him. He never paid me a cent. He didn’t pay his writers any royalties, either, but that’s another story.

 

 

Because Herbert didn't pay me for the book covers I shot for him or royalties on the books, Jen and I decided to publish our new books under our “Red Eight Ball Press” indicia.

photo 15 red eight ball

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