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Moving beyond hand-spanking

Many people move beyond hand spanking by using a paddle. That raises the question about the kind of paddle you should get. If you’re new to this, get a lightweight paddle that has a decent head size. You’ll want some experience before you grab a heavy paddle. Spanking paddles are made of wood, plastic, leather or rubber.

As a paddle is flat and inflexible, it is too blunt to leave stripes—only bruises can result from excessive force—and because of its size. it is unfit for a particularly painful “bulls-eye” in the butt-crack (affording the spankee at least a modicum of protection).

Generally the physical impact is therefore not greatly increased, only the humiliation, if administered bare-assed, (except in the case of the holed paddle, the original, oblong model was known as a Spencer paddle), which causes the victim to blister much faster (these holes may be beveled to reduce the chances of blistering).

In the great majority of cases, the paddle is aimed at the recipient's buttocks; rarely, the back of the thighs might also be targeted.

On the other hand, if the damage allowed is limited, inflicting strokes less intensely allows prolonging the duration of the ordeal of the paddling, as to work over different parts of the butt; prolongation is also possible by pausing, which has the added effect of causing the victim to suffer further mentally (and ponder the offense being punished) while having to wait for the next painful installment.


Implements

A spanking paddle is an implement used to strike a person on the buttocks. The act of striking a person with a paddle is known as "paddling". A paddling may be for punishment, as an initiation or hazing ritual, or for erotic purposes.

A paddle has two parts: a handle and a blade. Most paddles are designed to be held with one hand, but a larger paddle may be designed to be held with two hands. The blade is typically 3 to 4 inches (100 mm) wide, 1/2 inch thick, and 1 to 3 feet (0.91 m) in length.

Paddles are often made from (expensive but durable) hardwood, such as maple, oak, mahogany or walnut, and finished with varnish or teak oil; plastic causes less pain due to lower density, though some modern paddles are made of Lexan (fiberglass being too likely to break—allegedly that occasionally happens even to hardwood; of course the measurements are also relevant).

Nevertheless some paddles are sometimes not factory-made but home-made or home-modified objects, e.g. a shortened canoe paddle or baseball bat with one side flatted to half or less, as used on cadets in Columbia Military Academy; especially in domestic discipline (and in BDSM) various pervertables are used, including the kitchen utensil cutting board (wooden and paddle-shaped) and, of course, the readily-available table tennis paddle.

Furthermore a long model (including the handle) increases the leverage and hence the force applied on the punished skin. While a big blade looks frightening, it spreads the force over a larger surface, and so with equal weight it would hit less intensely. A narrow shape can be more cane-like, to concentrate all the force of one or several consecutive blows on a single buttock or parts of it, rather than across the entire behind, to cause more intense pain and worse bruising.

There are numerous implements that can be used for a impact play. Here is a list of implements and the pros and cons for some of them.

  • Hand
  • Ruler
  • Slipper
  • Hairbrush
  • Paddles (various)
  • Strap
  • Taws
  • Belt
  • Switch or birch rod
  • Canes
  • Etc.

Hand

Note: remove your rings and – if you intend using your arm as an impact implement – consider rolling up your sleeves. There are basically two ways of spanking with an open hand.
The first is to stiffen your hand, flattening it like a paddle
The alternative is to have your hand relaxed and flexible (especially at the wrist), like a strap.

You’ll want to prepare your hands if you’re intending on doing any serious spanking.

If you have ever played congas, bongos, tennis or squash, you will know what it means to keep your wrist flexible. Keep your four fingers together and relaxed, too. Note that it will be mainly your fingers that do the work, not your palm. Your thumb will not participate much, so you can move it a bit out of the way. Concentrate on where and how your four fingers make contact with the bottom.

Cupping the hand while spanking the bare bottom reduces the pain produced. At the same time, it produces a much louder sound - this makes the spanking seem more severe than it acually is. This trick can be very useful. It increases the psychologic effect while keeping the physical pain to a minimum.

Don't lift your arm high. You would only sacrifice accuracy to apparent power.

Pros: Convenient; inexpensive (free); will not bruise; ideal for warm up spankings; excellent for bringing nerves to the surface.

Cons: Can be painful after numerous strikes for the one conducting the spanking; not overly painful for the recipient; must spank harder with the hand than with an implement; some people prefer not to use the hand as it's viewed as a loving "item" and should not be used to punish with.

Ruler

Traditionally used by teachers as a spanking implement. A ruler is similar in effect to a thin wooden paddle. Usually it is not as painful as a hairbrush or a wooden spoon because of its light weight. For the same reason, it is not very effective on a clothed bottom.

Modern plastic rulers are generally too light, metal rulers are of course out of the question, but old-fashioned wooden rulers are a possible alternative to a paddle or hairbrush. If you spank with a ruler, be careful to hold it perfectly flat (at the point of impact), otherwise bruising can occur easily where the edge hits. For that reason a ruler should be considered a little unsafer than a paddle or hairbrush.


Slipper

The slipper is another implement that must be rated "ad-hoc" and "not well designed for spanking". Still, many parents use it at home because it is the implement that is within quickest reach. No general statements about pain and possible bruising can be made as the weight and material differs strongly. Keep also in mind that shoes, especially the soles, are not always the cleanest household items

Wooden Spoon

This is a sometimes used ad-hoc implement (especially by mothers in the kitchen). It is not recommended because the impact area of such a spoon is typically quite small. The sort of pain produced is intense, but not very good.

Pros: Lightweight; inexpensive; quiet when spanking; ideal for warm up spankings; pain/sting stays on the surface of the buttocks; good for spanking thighs; not dense.

Cons: Small, so it must be used all over the buttocks to achieve desired results; can break easily.

Hairbrush

The back of a hairbrush is similar to a small paddle. Using a hairbrush instead of a paddle has the advantage that you don't need to buy or make a special implement for the purpose of spanking - but you lose the psychological advantage of having a clearly designated spanking implement in your house.

The traditional hairbrush will be made of wood, but plastic ones are also possible. The most difficult part is to find a hairbrush that has a suitable smooth, flat or slightly rounded back. Bigger hairbrushes tend to bruise less then smaller ones because they do not concentrate the impact on a too small area. The danger of bruising with hairbrushes is about the same as with paddles.

Pros: Lightweight; inexpensive; excellent for achieving desired sting; covers a larger part of the buttocks; common household item - i.e. convenient.

Cons: Can break/crack easily; can be loud when spanking; can bruise if not used properly; plastic hairbrushes won't work - needs to be wooden.

Paddles

Ping Pong Paddle

Pros: Lightweight; inexpensive; common household item; fairly quiet when spanking; desired sting stays on the surface of the buttocks; covers larger part of the buttocks; difficult to break.

Cons: Not typically associated with spanking; have to spank hard to get desired results; small and difficult to hold; red rubber coating makes the sting lighter than desired.

Wooden Paddles

Wooden paddles were popular for disciplining students in schools in the U.S. through the 1960s and somewhat beyond (especially in the Southern States). Wood paddles are so heavy/intense that the sting penetrates through clothing.

When used on a bare bottom, you need to be extra careful not to spank too hard. There is some danger of bruising the skin.

The main disadvantage of wooden paddles is that they make it difficult for the spanker to tell the difference between spanking too hard and spanking too light. They always make a loud noise. The actual pain depends very much on the clothing worn, the paddle's size, material and weight, and how hard it is swung. Paddles with holes drilled through the board sting more because the holes reduce the air resistance and prevent the building of an air cushion (the same physical principle finds application in a flyswatter).

Spanking paddles come in various sizes, wood types, weights and shapes. However, it also doesn't take great carpenting skills to make a paddle oneself. Use a thin, lightweight board. To avoid injury, round all corners and sand the edges well. After thorough sanding, varnish the paddle to make the surface smooth, clean, and free from splinters.

Pros: Commonly associated with spanking; excellent for achieving desired sting; easy to manage/hold; good for nearly every spanking position.

Cons: Dense; can bruise if not used properly; can be expensive; not commonly found in stores; can be fairly loud when spanking.

Leather Paddle

Leather paddles come in all makes, models, and colors. They come as fairly thin leather and they come as very thick leather. They come as two or three pieces of leather combined and attached to a handle, and they come loaded with lead shot. They even come with bunny fur on one side and spikey things on the other. You can get a lot of sensations from leather (and other) paddles

Pros: Commonly associated with spanking; easy to achieve desired sting; sting stays on the surface of the buttocks; not as dense as wooden paddle; not likely to bruise.

Cons: Very loud when spanking; rather expensive; difficult to find one for purchase; considered a rather severe implement.

Strap

Leather straps are thinner and shorter variations of the belt, and better designed for spanking. However, the thinner ones are too floppy to control, and the thicker ones are too painful and can cause bad bruises.

Taws

Tawses are special variants of the strap that feature 2, 3 or 4 "tongues". Their origin and main use to the present day is in Scotland. They are a “lazy Dom” implement as they are extremely painful even when lightly applied. They easily leave welts.

Belt

Belts are certainly handy, but they can be difficult to control. They can twist uncontrolled and hit with their edge. They can cause bad and long-lasting bruises. When badly aimed, they can wrap around the body in a non-consensual way.

Pros: Everyday household item; lightweight; sting stays on the surface of the buttocks; can quickly achieve desired results (don't have to spank as much).

Cons: Difficult to control during a spanking (flimsy); can leave welts; loud when spanking; difficult to use in most spanking positions; MUST be a leather belt.


Switch

A switch is a straight, slender rod cut from a bush or tree. It differs from a "stick" in the respect that it is thinner and more flexible. This flexibility places a switch somewhere in between a thin rattan cane and a birch rod.

Many bush and tree species can be used for this purpose, as long as they have straight, young, slender and flexible rods, but it is difficult to find a really good switch. In summer, you will have to remove the leaves (and small side-branches, if any) before the switch can be used. It must be absolutely smooth (sanding helps if necessary) before it can be used relatively safely.

Once cut, switches cannot be stored for long because: they become brittle and will break easily once they dry out. To prevent this, some people recommend soaking switches in water for a few hours before use. This will make them more flexible and reduce the chances of breaking.

Pros: Inexpensive (free); easy to find; lightweight; easy to achieve desired sting; relatively quiet when spanking; easy to control; flexible.

Cons: Can lacerate if not used correctly; breaks easily; effects a small area of the buttocks; can leave welts; takes preparation (remove leaves, thorns, etc., and must make it smooth).

Canes

Canes are an advanced tool and I will cover them in detail in an accompanying article.


Timing and pacing

You can find my discussion about timing and pacing in the article titled: “Spanking and Paddling.”


impact play safe zones graphicSafety issues

There are certain places that are fine to hit. In a general sense, any part of the body with lots of padding is fair game. Generally, this means the ass, thighs, and backs of the calves. You should not spank their spine, kidneys, bony spots, joints, or organs.

Thanks to Master Marc and his boy denon and their wonderful website (http://www.devianceanddesire.com/site/), here’s a graphic they permit others to use for limited distribution for educational purposes:


Aftercare

If the bottom is bruised, kneading the flesh can actually help break up the bruising. Some take baths with epsom salts and others use Arnica gel, cream or pills. Some also use Aloe Vera. Try one or any combination of these and find something that works for your skin type and body chemistry. Emotional aftercare is important too. The bottom quite often will need hugs and a reassuring voice, especially if the spanking was a disciplinary one. Don't pass over the tender moments, they are often what makes this kink so emotionally and physically satisfying.

Trust and security are two very important pieces of an enjoyable erotic spanking experience. Your partner needs to know they are safe and will not be harmed, and you, the spanker, needs to ensure those very things.

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