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(Presenter Jen)

We have all experienced the excitement, the fun, and the sexual thrill of a new relationship.  We have experienced times when we couldn’t focus much beyond our new partner.  Then, almost without awareness our world returned to the mundane, leaving us yearning for what now seems lost.  Come join our class as we share some strategies for falling in love again night after night.

 

(Presenter Jen)

In our world, we’re told that there are Tops and bottoms, Dominants and submissives, Masters and slaves, and Owners and property. While some fit pretty easily into those roles, others find that they don’t fit so comfortably into popularly accepted descriptions of these roles. If you’re finding that popular role definitions aren’t serving your needs as a couple, come to this class and explore ways of blending a bit of D/M and a bit of s/s to enhance/enrich the possibilities in your relationship. After all, what we do is about relationship first and SM second, right?  (Oh, and we’ll be discussing various general ways of interacting between the D-type and the s-type, including working with dominant slaves.)

(Presenters: Jen and Dr. Bob or Jen alone)  This class is suitable for those new to our culture.

If you’re discovering that your submissive has some seriously dominant streaks, you may wish to come to this class to learn some management and communication tips to help you through the rough times.  This class will offer skills to will help you to master the dominant that serves you.  Topics include – the intent of the structure and ways to avoid slipping back into traditional male/female roles, communication clarity, love languages, information processing modalities, and effective rewards and punishments.

Reexamining Authority-Based Relationships: definitions, preconceptions and confusions.
(Presenters: Jen and Dr. Bob or Jen alone)  This class is suitable for those new to our culture.

In our world, we’re told that there are Tops and bottoms, Dominants and submissives, Masters and slaves, and Owners and property. While some fit pretty easily into those roles, others find that they don’t fit so comfortably into popularly accepted descriptions of these roles. If you’re finding that popular role definitions aren’t serving your needs as a couple, come to this class and explore ways of blending a bit of D/M and a bit of s/s to enhance/enrich the possibilities in your relationship. After all, what we do is about relationship first and SM second, right?  (Oh, and we’ll be discussing various general ways of interacting between the D-type and the s-type, including working with dominant slaves.)

(Presenter: Dr. Bob)

There are important ways that Master/slave structures differ between the way they are practiced with the Leather and BDSM cultures.  Some of these differences play out in language, intent, and protocols, while other differences play out in the expectations couples have of their M/s dynamic.  This discussion is designed to help M/s couples clarify their own relationships in order to help them focus on the same core issues/values. (NOTE: attendees may wish to take notes.)

(Presenters: Jen and Dr. Bob or Dr. Bob alone.)

Long-term authority-imbalanced relationships are not accidental; they require ongoing hard work.  However, the areas that require thought and work are often subtle – you may not even think of them on your own.  We’ll discuss topics such as aligning your core values, discussing how you define yourself and your partner affect your relationship, as well as a host of concepts/ideas for your consideration – all aimed at improving your relationship and supporting your own growth and the growth of your partner. (NOTE: attendees may wish to take notes.)

Grappling with Some Hidden Elements of a Power Exchange Relationship
(Presenter: Dr. Bob)

Certain words describe concepts that in turn describe key aspects of power-imbalanced relationships (Owner/property, Master/slave, Dominant/submissive, etc).  When there is disagreement between the D-type and the s-type regarding these concepts or how to fulfill them, destabilizing stresses begin to surface.  Topics include:  management issues; decision-making; love in relation to obedience and punishment; fear; punishment and punishment systems; and service.  This interactive session will explore some of these elements in an effort to discuss ways to ensure and sustain a stable relationship. (NOTE: attendees may wish to take notes.)

 

(Presenter: Dr. Bob) This class is suitable for those new to our culture.

Power exchange relationships can be difficult to sustain over time.  It takes a lot of ongoing work to keep such relationships fresh and it’s easy to slip back into more common archetypes (“husband/wife” or “boyfriend/girlfriend).  This workshop covers such topics as: initial reasons why a power exchange relationship can get into trouble; ego and insecurity in relationships; structural reasons for difficulties; exploring fear and anxiety among slaves and submissives; inability of one partner to be what the other wished for; and an exploration of positive characteristics one might look for in a partner. (NOTE: attendees may wish to take notes.)

Keeping New Relationship Energy Going: Some Ideas for Living in Romance
(Presenters: Jen and Dr. Bob or Jen alone)

We have all experienced the excitement, the fun, and the sexual thrill of a new relationship.  We have experienced times when we couldn’t focus much beyond our new partner.  Then, almost without awareness our world returned to the mundane, leaving us yearning for what now seems lost.  Come join our class as we share some strategies for falling in love again night after night.

(Presenter Jen)

The first step in writing protocols is to determine what is important to you and why you want it done in a certain way. To do this, you have to understand HOW you want to be served.  The second step is always to consider that your slave is a person who has needs that are important to them and also that they have certain ways of learning things even as you have certain ways of teaching.  Your job as Master is to be able to develop protocols and rituals that support who you both are and incorporate your needs with your slave’s needs to create a magical world in which the two (or more) of you live.

Note: As of February, 2015, Jen has completed the first draft of her book tentatively titled: Master/slave Mastery: How to Write Effective Protocols that Serve You in an Authority-Imbalanced BDSM Relationship (Expected publication date, June 2015)

(Presenters: Jen)

You’ve been invited to something fancy – perhaps as complex as a High Protocol Dinner, perhaps it’s going out to dinner with your rather stuffy in-laws.  You’d love to go, but you are concerned that you’d feel out of place.  What to do, what to do?  Answer: come to this presentation.  We’ll start with how to accept the invitation, move on to clothing, when to arrive, and what you can do to prepare to fit in socially.  We’ll spend time discussing how to manage your cocktails and appetizers and then dwell on table etiquette – how to hold wine glasses, how to manage your napkin, and how to hold your utensils.  By the end of the workshop, you should be able to welcome your next fancy party – or be prepared to give one!

This workshop combines practical and esoteric information to elevate your social game.  These skills enable you to have a fun and relaxing experience regardless of the formality of the setting. (PS: this course should also help prepare you for an "executive dining interview", should that be relevant in your life.)

My Book Supporting this Presentation:  Protocol Handbook for the Leather slave: Theory and Practice, second edition. Las Vegas: Nazca Plains, 2007

[Note to event producers: if we are flying to your event, we must bring an extra suitcase containing our demo materials.  Unless we’re flying Southwest Air, we would appreciate it if you would cover the $25 luggage fee each way.]

(Presenters: Jen and Dr. Bob or Dr. Bob alone)

Protocols are an outgrowth of your values.  Some are tried-and-true, some you’ll have to create to suit your own relationship.  You can create protocols that support your own version of a magical world and you can create protocols that solve challenges that come up within a relationship, such as getting back into Master or slave headspace after a long day at work.  Protocols can also be used to help stabilize relationships that are being pulled back to the land of vanillas.  We’ll discuss practical protocols, and attendees will have the opportunity to ask for help designing protocols to fit their particular needs. (NOTE: attendees may wish to take notes.)

My Book Supporting this Presentation:  Protocol Handbook for the Female slave: Theory and Practice, second edition. Las Vegas: Nazca Plains, 2007

The Ethical Guide to Writing Your Own Protocol Manual: A workshop for Owners, Masters, and Dominants
(Presenter: Jen)

The first step in writing protocols is to determine what is important to you and why you want it done in a certain way. To do this, you have to understand HOW you want to be served.  The second step is always to consider that your slave is a person who has needs that are important to them and also that they have certain ways of learning things even as you have certain ways of teaching.  Your job as Master is to be able to develop protocols and rituals that support who you both are and incorporate your needs with your slave’s needs to create a magical world in which the two (or more) of you live.

Note: As of September, 2014, Jen has completed the first draft of her book tentatively titled: Master/slave Mastery: How to Write Effective Protocols that Serve You in an Authority-Imbalanced BDSM Relationship (Expected publication date, December 2014)

(Presenters: Jen and Dr. Bob or Dr. Bob alone)

Relationships in our BDSM community are often more complex than marriages.  The s-type is working 100% to please Master/Dom(me), and Master/Dom/me is endeavoring to guide and grow the slave/submissive.  “Stuff” can often get in the way of clear communication.  When communications get in trouble, the relationship gets in trouble.

This workshop covers some “out-of-the-box” communication issues. About half of this presentation will go over conflicts arising from areas where differences between people are often hidden, such as how we communicate love, how time may be different for each partner, how upbringing may affect your current relationship, how we process information, and so forth.

Many tips and techniques are easy to explain and to learn and provide eye-opening insights about ways you and your partner(s) communicate love.  Similarly, couples/triads/etc often collide over issues that are not at all obvious to either party.  (NOTE: you might wish to bring pen and paper.)

My Book Supporting this Presentation:  Master/slave Relations: Communications 401 ─ the Advanced Course Las Vegas: Nazca Plains, 2008

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